Online you are just looking for friends to talk to. But somehow, meeting someone you know online platonically has become a far more awkward endeavor than a random friends date. You know her but you don’t know her. What to do when the moment comes and you see her — a face to face. Do you shake hands? Do you hug? Do you do that open-palmed half-wave? God forbid she goes for the hug and you go for the handshake like you’re in some jerking, uncoordinated, chest-poking dance. How to meet somebody with ease?
Don’t push the River, let her settled
She needs your help first. Get her grounded. She traveled distance, she is tired, sleep deprived, overexcited and might be hungry. Offer her water or a small snack (first chakra work), show your presence saying “all is good, you are safe now!” Take over and be in charge now in organizing last details with languages, money exchanges or transportation…let her take a deep breath, finally!
SHE is Probably Just As Nervous As You Are
If you’re nervous about meeting your friend in person, you’re not alone. While I’m usually not nervous before these meet ups, I’ve met friends who were super nervous before meeting me. It’s understandable: You want your online friend to think that you’re just as great IRL. Take a deep breath and remember that they want to make a good impression just as much as you do!
Q: HUG or NAMASTE gesture?
Do you shake hands? Do you hug? Do you do that open-palmed half-wave? God forbid she goes for the hug and you go for the handshake like you’re in some jerking, uncoordinated, chest-poking dance.
A: Read energy of a presenting moment and listen…
Somethings less is better. Give yourself smile first and all will unfold naturally. Both of you are nervous, so nothing will be perfect, get ready for some hooops! Why not? So you better be able to ride out that unavoidable initial awkwardness. Shake it off with gentle laughter, together!
SHE might be A Little (Or A Lot) Different In Person
Perhaps her voice carries weird accent or a high pinch? Sometimes the person you thought you knew online is pretty different in person: taller, shorter or louder. This isn’t inherently a good or a bad thing, but it can definitely leave you feeling a little confused. But hey, as long as they aren’t a jerk, don’t sweat it. Maybe you’re a little different than they expected!
If you don’t hit it off, it is still possible to be online acquaintances. Stay gentlemen and accompany your “Lady for a day” always to a safe place. Remember she is a soul that you wanted to know more. Face your reality and enjoy your new discovery. You might not be same as she was dreaming either….so just talk it out and see if there is a possibility to build up a real friendship from online friendship to create new projects, etc? If not, your “face to face” date will be soon over and your will be free again.
Stay In Touch Offline
If you had a great time meeting your online friend IRL, don’t hesitate to plan more fun shenanigans. Seriously, don’t let this be some one-time thing if it can be so much more. You won’t look needy or anything like that.
Soon they won’t just be your “internet friends”….and you will enjoy real friendship and share your stories online, ha!
Written by Veronika Prielozna in a packing mode to start her traveling project Facing Your Destiny https://sway.com/PiJVIZOOZz7yz3GD and meet many new oversee friends in a real life.